I have a six year old
son from another marriage. He has a good
relationship with my
new wife’s parents, but not with my wife so much.
Currently we are
arguing as to whether or not he should be treated as an
equal by her and her
parents. Her parents told me before we married that he would be viewed no
differently than their own grandkids. And I must admit that they've
followed through on what they've promised. Currently we are arguing about
the fact that she feels that when we have kids her, nor her parents, nor myself
should ever attend anything of his if our children have something that
conflicts with that. I understand her point on her not being there, but
how can she expect me to choose one child over another? And how can her
parents view all of their grandchildren the same if he only gets their
attention when the others don't? Where is the fairness in that? If
they don't want to treat them the same, then why tell me so?
Also, she has
recently mentioned that she didn't realize that having my son
would effect us
financially to the point that she wouldn't be able to have
She's also said in the past that her hatred for his mom affects
the way she feels
about him. That it makes her feel negatively towards him.
All of this honestly
has an affect on me and the way I feel towards the
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