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Don Brown from Iowa (submitted March '09)

 

Name: Don Brown

Home: Iowa

I have a stepchild that is 9 years old and he fights me every step away. He tells me he hates me, he dont want me here, he tells me he rather be with grandma than here and tell his mom that to.

He goes to a christan school, and he great in school, but at home he a very diffrent child. He has add and is on medince

He wont listen to me when i ask him to pick things up he says no I dont have to, but if his mom he does most of the time. He winnes when he dont get his way, but to me that he is doing that for attention for his mom, and his mom gives in when he is bad, and dont understanf that.

He plays his mom afainst me cause he knows how to. She(mom) used to decide with him and belive I was provking him to do those things.

WELL I AM OPEN TO SUGGETIONS CAUSE I AM LOST AND i AM NOT GIVING UP, CAUSE I DONT THROW THE TOWEL IN, BUT AT TIMES I KNOW IT COULD BE EASY, BUT I DONT AND i WILL NOT!

 

 
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#2: by charlotte on 02.25.2010 @ 04:24pm CST

Really weak men who do not have the guts to be parents much less GOOD husbands....Good for you keeping your distance Nina - you should think about really freeing yourself so you are available to find a future with a loving husband.
#1: by Nina on 05.25.2009 @ 07:15am CDT

I understand completely. My boyfriends son is the same way. We have been dating for 3 and a half years and have decided it is probaly best not to marry because of his sons feelings towards me. I feel for you because at least I have my house to go to when I don't want to put up with it anymore. And here recently I have been avoiding my boyfriend and his children because all I hear is how unfair I treat his son and basically it is my fault why he doesn't respect me. I am starting to think that my boyfriend wants me to let his son run my life and treat me however he wants to with no consequences. Call me old school, what when a child screams in your face, walks away when you are talking to them, carves stuff in your dining room furniture, and pulls a knife on your child- that calls for some sort of disipline. I am looking for the same advice you are, so if any one sent you a comment that helped please shoot it my way. I am still praying.

Thanks alot,

Nina

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